What’s Missing?


It’s been about 3 weeks since the accident. Everything is OK, but there is a growing sense of unease. It may just be the medication, boredom, or sick of being in my bed and healing.

But there may be something else going on, too. The first thing I read this morning was a blog post from Seth Godin. In the business sense, he talked about how to best benefit the customer. This particular line stood out: “… focus on being of service.”

That easily applies to me, personally. It reminded me that I need to keep my focus off myself and my selfish wants, and instead to look to where I can help others.

Then I read a post on another blogger’s page that was titled, “The Spirit of the Twelfth”. This blogger had such an infectious exuberance about recovery and service. Perhaps that is what is missing.

Before the accident, I was actively working with a couple sponsees. I felt really connected. Now, I am not of sound mind and body, and don’t have a lot to offer. I’m quite disconnected.

What I get to do now is to allow others the opportunity to be of service. It’s really strange. Before recovery I took whatever I could. I feel a little guilty accepting so much help now. What did I do to deserve this? But maybe the only way I can be of service at the moment is by allowing others the chance to help.

When someone offered to bring a meeting to my home, I said “YES.” I didn’t think twice. I could have been “strong” and “self-sufficient” and said no, but today I know that God works through other people.

Another friend asked if she could set up a “Meal Train” for me. Again, I said “YES.” Perhaps it’s humility that allows me to say yes so easily (but the second I say that I got humility, I immediately lose it).

The bottom line is, I do what is in front of me. There are no big deals, and this too shall pass. (Shoot me if I use another slogan.) I hope that you have the courage to say YES to opportunities today.



7 thoughts on “What’s Missing?

  1. This reminds me so much of something my sponsor first told me when I got sober, and I still use it almost EVERYDAY today. “Do the next right thing.” That’s it. Sometimes the next right thing is saying yes. Sometimes it’s eating. Sometimes it’s going to bed. All I have to do though is just what’s right in front of me.

    I used to (and still do) like to think of myself as Forrest Gump. If you look at that story, literally all he did was the next thing that was in front of him. And he had this unbelievable life. I try to keep that in my mind and live life as it presents itself. Great post!!

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